Wednesday, June 9, 2010
reply to Irene Post week 4
I found your blog really interesting this week. I see a lot of shows on television and wonder what it must really be like for parents to go through that. You brought up gay adoption and I am wondering if that was ever a thought in your mind? would you have been ok with a gay couple adopting your child? not even having anything to do with the fact that they are gay but the reasoning behind society influencing the fact that it takes a man and a woman to raise a child. I am curious to know if adoption agencies consider gay couples and what their reasoning would be to turn them away. Of course some states have not yet even legalized marriage let alone adopting a child however this is a huge argument that is going on today. Thank you for sharing this!
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Danielle,
ReplyDeleteI have no idea what adoption agencies consider. I chose (with my parents) a very, very highly regarded private attorney. My attorney sat down with me to discuss what I had thought of in regards to the family I was looking for. There are literally thousands and thousands of parents looking to adopt and as it was explained to me (I am not saying this to sound...I don't know take it how you will) but I have never smoked, done drugs and until I was of age I didn't drink. So the child I was carrying was receiving ongoing prenatal care, my family has no serious medical issues, I was beyond healthy, athletic and took very good care of myself throughout the pregnancy. I come from a very good family and went to private schools, both of my parents are highly educated.... I just well ya know... I screwed up. Unfortunately... with adoptions- this is somewhat rare... so this feels so creepy to say but as a lot of couples were interested in adopting 'my' child. I chose to look into families that were traditional and had similar lifestyles to the one I was accustomed to but was also open to hearing about unique families. It was beyond difficult but after reading literally hundreds of profiles and thinking and praying I just really fell in love with the couple I chose- it felt right and it turned out to be perfect. I just knew that these people were meant to be his family and its worked out to be the best thing I have ever done. The whole story of how things came together is long but fantastic and we always say it was fate. To comment on what I would do at 17 is not fair to 17 year old me because I was still learning but my choice wasn't about WHO the people were per se- it was a feeling I mean even with certain parameters and narrowing down the profiles I read the choice was still so hard and I just really "clicked" with the people I found and its been a fair amount of time and I am still entirely at peace with my choice.